Are you perfect? Do you always do things the right way? You must be an exception if you said yes to these two questions. Most of us have some shortcomings and we can only be better by working on them. So, from this friendship day, let’s be 'Better Friends' to our pals first, rather than judging them on various criterias. It’s really simple. By avoiding doing a few things one could be a more mature and wise friend.
Lying: Your friend tells you about this awesome place in town and invites you to go with him/her. So, you must have joined him/her on time and would have had fun, right? No? You ditched your friend by going with some other friend and they came to know about it? Guess, even your apology won’t sound genuine!
Making fun of something that means a lot to you: So, your friend might have a weird choice in a few things or might embarrass you sometimes. But does that mean you’ll pick on him/her all the time? Help them get better. Be buddies, not bullies.
Repeatedly talking about problems but never taking your advice/interrupting when you speak:
Friend 1: "Will you ever let me complete my sentence before jumping to conclusions? Oh wait, you anyway don’t follow my advice, why are we talking about your problems then?"
Friend 2: "Maybe you should understand the problem well, before advising me. Won’t share my problems. Fine!" (Hangs up). Such a conversation won’t get you anywhere. Seeking to understand first is very important and so is being a good listener.
Being bad listeners and taking things for granted: Day dreaming is good but not when your friend has taken out time to meet you. Who would you be showing this attitude to, if he/she hadn't made the efforts to talk to you? And, everything you do comes back to you. Don’t be shocked later or blame your friend when he/she reciprocates with similar gestures! (Includes not texting back and cutting your calls most of the times unless really-really-really-really-really busy. And no one is that busy)
Borrowing things but never returning them/returning them in a bad condition: Friends should share and borrow stuff, but respecting the fact that your friend shared his/her belongings is something that should be kept in mind. If, you don’t care to return things in a good condition/plan not to return them at all, you might lose the respect and trust your friend had in you.
Commenting on your dressing style but never helping you buy good stuff: Why you got to be so rude? Don’t you know she’s human too.
Cancelling / changing plans at the last moment: So, your friends were all set to go to the food joint you planned to and at the last moment you put a condition that you’d go only if they also go for a movie after lunch. How mean is that?
Dominating/acting bossy: You might be taller and healthier but trying to rule your buds will only make you seem smaller in front of them!
Stalking: Why do you want to stalk? Are you jealous? Or competitive? Or insecure? Any of these is a bad reason to stalk. However, if your friend inspires you, you might take inspiration from them but stalking still won’t be the right thing to do. It would still hint towards jealousy and you trying to convince yourself that you’re not ‘J’.
Being sweet on the face and then back-bitching/taking revenge: Talking directly about what’s bothering you is always better than back-bitching because it will only spoil your image and ruin your friendship by creating trust issues. (However, discussing/taking advice from a third person regarding what’s bothering you when talking directly with your friend doesn’t helps is a different matter altogether). To say the least, at least spare your close buddies!
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