How to Prepare for a Mastectomy

Making a Plan

Talk to your doctor. Find out ahead of time what you can and cannot do after your surgery. You will probably not be allowed to drive, and you may be sent home with JP drains that will need care. Share this information with the people who will be taking care of you after your surgery. Ask how long you are likely to be in the hospital after your surgery. Some people go home the same day, others stay a day or longer.

Discuss your options with your surgeon. Ask your family doctor to recommend a surgeon, and meet with your surgeon and anesthesiologist before your surgery. Ask any questions you have. They will talk to you about your medical history and make a plan for what type of surgery you will have and when. They will likely set up a pre-op exam, which will take place a couple weeks before your surgery and is usually performed by a primary doctor or a doctor specializing in pre-op risk assessment. The doctor may recommend medication and behavioral changes so you have a successful surgery. Tell your doctors about any medications, vitamins, or supplements that you’re taking. If you take aspirin or a blood-thinner, you will have to stop taking it temporarily before your surgery. You cannot eat or drink for 8-12 hours before your surgery; your doctors will give you specific instructions that you must follow.

Pack a bag for the hospital. Take a robe and slippers to the hospital to keep comfortable during your stay. Bring your toothbrush and other hygiene products. Pack a book, some magazines, and other items to occupy your time during your initial hospital recovery.

Take medical leave from work. You will need to recover at home for a while, possibly for as long as six weeks. Talk to your head of Human Resources department at work, and your supervisor. Your doctor can give you an idea of how long you should miss work, and if necessary they can write a letter to your employer. You may need to: File paperwork for short-term disability Plan for others to take over large projects that you are working on Share information that others will need to take over your daily tasks

Plan for your family care and living arrangements. You may need help caring for yourself at first - you will have difficulty bathing, and you will not be able to drive for several weeks. Enlist friends, family, or professional staff to help you. Set up your sleeping arrangements to be near a bathroom, and avoid the use of stairs - you will likely be sent home with medications that may make you dizzy. Plan for child-care if you usually take care of the kids.

Do your household chores ahead of time. After your surgery, you should concentrate on recovering. You may want to do the following beforehand: Clean your house Do your laundry Pay your bills Trim your hair (short enough that someone can shampoo it in a sink for you)

Purchase some medical supplies. There are a few things that you will want to have on hand, such as gauze bandages, bandage tape, antibiotic ointment, and over-the-counter pain relievers. The doctor may give you some of these, but it's good to have some just in case. Get supplies at your local pharmacy or drug store.

Stock up on healthy food. Stay away from complicated "cancer cure" diets and concentrate on eating wholesome, balanced, protein-rich foods, and a good complement of fruits and vegetables. Stock up on these items before your surgery so you have a stocked fridge when you get home. Consider signing up for a service that delivers meals, or purchasing frozen pre-prepared meals for a couple of weeks to make your mealtimes easier.

Get a hand-held shower attachment. You will not be allowed to get your incision site wet for several weeks. You can learn to sink bathe or sponge bathe, but you may prefer a hand-held shower attachment. You may find it much easier to wash yourself in the bathtub sitting on a bath stool. Dry shampoo can be handy for the first couple of weeks, until you can wash your hair again.

Rehearse doing things one-handed. A week or two before your surgery, try doing things one-handed with what will be your "good" arm. Try brushing your hair, tying it up, brushing your teeth, washing yourself, and eating. Remember that while you'll be able to move your affected arm, you won't be able to raise it above your shoulder for a week or two. You will also have little strength in the affected arm, or only have strength in certain directions. If you’re having a double mastectomy, be sure to have plenty of time to recover and people to help you with tasks and daily activities.

Improving Your Comfort During Recovery

Get loose, comfortable clothing. You will need several changes of loose, comfortable clothes that open completely in the front. For several weeks, you will not be able to put on anything over your head, or wear anything that is close around your body or under your armpits, including a bra. Acquire some comfortable items such as: Several nightgowns or nightshirts that button open completely in the front Two or three pairs of sweatpants or yoga pants with elastic waistbands Slippers with non-slip soles A loose coat or blanket to wear if it's cold Special mastectomy bras or bra inserts, if available

Set up your bedding with added support. You may not be able to lie on your side or stomach for several weeks after surgery. Try to obtain a "bed wedge" or wedged pillow, and several extra pillows. While not essential, a wedge-shaped pillow will make you much more comfortable than a stack of pillows. You will probably want some more pillows to prop you up as you sleep, and to support your affected arm. Look for affordable wedge pillows at big box stores or your local pharmacy, or shop online.

Keep some laxatives on hand. You will likely be sent home with some medications such as pain relievers. Many of these have side effects, which often include constipation. Have some gentle laxatives available, and use them as directed by your doctor if constipation is a problem.

Plan on some activities for your recovery. You will not be able to do anything strenuous or active for a while, and prescription pain relievers are likely to affect your memory and thinking, so don't plan on making any important decisions while you're using them. Plan for some gentle activities that bring you pleasure. Choose activities that can be picked up and put down easily. Select reading material that isn't demanding, learn to knit, binge-watch your favorite television programs, or pick up a new hobby!

Coping Emotionally

Decide who to tell. Think about how open you want to be about your upcoming surgery. Some people you really do need to tell, but generally it is up to you. There is no etiquette in cancer, and there are no social protocols for you to follow. Think carefully, and then do what's right for you. You do not have to go through this alone! Share your feelings and needs with those who make you feel comfortable, safe, and cared for.

Build a support network. You will need help after you get home from the hospital. Many health plans offer visiting nurse services to assist with changing your bandages, but they will not bathe you, cook, or do your laundry. Talk to people you are emotionally close to, and try to have someone stay with you while you recover. Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner, family, friends, therapist – people who are supportive and caring. Join a support group in your community or online, or consider seeing a therapist who specializes in cancer. You can find professionals in your area through the American Psychosocial Oncology Society (APOS) Helpline.

Learn to decrease your stress. Do stress-relieving activities before your surgery like yoga, meditation, deep breathing, taking walks – anything that helps you relax. Practice these skills now and continue them after your surgery. Practice mindfulness meditation on a daily basis. Get clearance from your doctor before doing anything physical like walking or yoga.

Do strengthening exercises before your surgery. Work on building up your strength and flexibility before surgery – this can help you feel stronger and more in control afterwards. For breast surgery, try to focus on your upper body and back. Feeling physically strong may help you recover better and feel emotionally strong, as well.

Opt for or against breast reconstruction surgery. Breast reconstruction surgery can make your breast feel and look more natural following your mastectomy. This procedure can be done during your mastectomy or in a separate surgery afterwards. Breast reconstruction may not be important to you, or it may be a big part of the healing process – everyone is different. Spend some time thinking about what feels important to you, and whether further surgery may help you feel more comfortable in your body. Consider talking to a therapist and/or a plastic surgeon about your feelings and options. Every surgery has risks, including breast reconstruction; talk to your doctor for more information. Some organizations, such as AiRS Foundation, help women to afford breast reconstruction surgeries.