How to Get a Guy to Like You in Third Grade

Overcoming Shyness and Fear

Bring your friend with you to talk to him. It can be scary to approach your crush alone so have your friend help you. If you go over and talk to him together it will help you be less nervous and if you forget what to say your friend can help fill in any silence.

Think of conversation starters ahead of time. If you plan what you want to say beforehand it will help you be less nervous and help prevent you from getting tongue-tied. If you have not met him yet, start by introducing yourself: “Hi, I am Emily! We both have Mrs. Thompson as our teacher.” Try giving him a compliment: “I like your shirt! It looks great on you.” Ask him a question: “What time do we have recess today?”

Rehearse what you are going to say. Practice in the mirror or in front of your friend what you want to say when you approach him. This will help you be less nervous.

Feel confident. Make sure to look and feel your best before you talk to him to help with nerves. Showering or bathing and brushing your teeth daily will help you be the best version of yourself you can be.

Don’t worry about what he thinks. A lot of the reason people get nervous is because they are scared what the other person will think of them. Just be who you are when you talk to him and try not to care what he thinks of you. If he doesn’t like you for who you are then he is not worth your time.

Using Body Language

Smile at your crush. While this might sound obvious, smiling at your crush when you see him is one of the easiest ways to show that you like him.

Make eye contact when you’re speaking. Not looking at your crush when talking with him can make you appear nervous or awkward, or worse, can make it seem like you don’t care about what he is saying. While you’ll want to maintain eye contact throughout most of your conversation, be sure to look away occasionally. Staring unflinchingly into your crush’s eyes for too long can come off as a bit strange and make him feel uncomfortable.

Sit or stand close to your crush. Standing and sitting near your crush is a clear indication that he is someone you would like to be around. Be mindful of personal space. Standing near your crush doesn’t necessarily mean touching him or standing shoulder-to-shoulder. If your crush seems uncomfortable with how close you’re getting, give him some space immediately.

Talking to Your Crush

Be nice to him. Although giving your crush the cold shoulder (or playing hard to get) can work out sometimes, it can often backfire and can make your crush think you’re mean.

Choose appropriate times to interact with your crush. Recess and lunch are perfect for spending time with him. Sit next to him during lunchtime, or invite him to play a game with you during recess. If you are feeling extra brave, ask your crush if he would like to spend time with you outside of school. This will give you a better chance of talking with him one-on-one.

Ask your crush personal questions. Ask your crush what their favorite books, movies, or activities are. If you want him to like you, you should genuinely care about him. You can ask him questions and find out more about him. Be curious to know what he finds exciting. If you and your crush share similar interests, talking about the things you both like can be a great way to bond and connect. If you and your crush don’t have many common interests, that’s ok. Try asking him (nicely) why he likes the things he does -- for example, if you don’t particularly care for baseball but your crush is a baseball fanatic, ask him what things he likes best about the sport.

Be yourself. Don’t pretend to like certain things just because your crush likes them. While it can be nice to show some curiosity in your crush’s interests, remember that you don’t need to have everything in common in order for him to like you. Faking interests or trying to change your personality can leave you feeling uncomfortable or unhappy, and if you appear uncomfortable or unhappy it might make your crush feel uncomfortable too (which might make him less likely to return your affections).

Sharing Your Feelings

Be careful who you tell about your crush. You might get teased or feel embarrassed if everyone at school finds out about it.

Talk to your parents about it. If you don’t know what to do about your crush you can talk to your parents about it. They might have great advice.

Tell your crush that you like him. People can be oblivious. If you’ve tried to show your crush that you like him but he does not seem to be taking a hint, consider telling him about your feelings. Try not to be too hurt if your crush does not like you back. If he reacts differently than you hoped it can be sad and heartbreaking. While this may mean that he does not feel the same way about you, he may just need some time to process your confession. Don’t be scared if your crush likes you back. It can be scary because you might think you have to be boyfriend and girlfriend or that you have to kiss. But you don’t have to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing.